To Whom We Matter

My life matters.
My life matters, when I spend time with those it matter to; it’a as simple and as complicated as that. Which is why, “Those who matter don’t mind, and those who mind, don’t matter” is such a powerful and amazing quote. We all matter, that should not be up for debate, even if it sadly is. Please my friends, stop asking why or if you matter! You do. And if you feel as though you don’t, I believe you have done one of two things: you have either, isolated yourself away from those to whom you matter, or you have chosen to spend time with people who do not value you enough. “Where there is a will there is a way” etc. etc.
I find when I spend time with people that value me deeply (not superficially e.g.”poof, what-do-ya-need”,) those that see me as a recognized and respected pillar of their life, I suddenly feel as though life has meaning and purpose, and I understand or at least begin to understand, why I am here.
However , when I waste my time around people who suck my energy, who want things from me but don’t actually value me, I feel depleted, vulnerable, and often useless. When I spend time around people who think so little of me that they hurt me to boast themselves, or use me (or any part of me, including my flaws) as a means to boost their own self-worth and/or jump start their own success; I suddenly feel as though I am not important or valuable. That may seem silly spelled out and assed that way, but it is not silly, it is real. So often we give of ourselves so much, and that is beautiful, we care, and that is important. However, we also Need. And that is also beautiful and important, it is human. Need is what facilitates and necessitates relationship. So please ask yourself and assess yourself; look at your relationships (or lack there of.) Are you choosing to spend time around people that you love, admire, care about, and/or respect? If not do them and yourself a favor, disengage, you could be hurting the mas much as they are hurting you… How much of your time do you spend with people that value you, care for you, respect you, love you? Etc etc. This does not mean perfect behavior, behavior is a fickle thing… What it does mean is that the people who make up the majority of your time and life, view you with admiration, love, and/or respect. Surround yourself with people who lift you up when you are down, encourage you when you need it, push you when you need a boost or a kick in the rear; but more than anything spend time with those that unconditionally see your value, truly, and who never question (or allow you to question) it’s worth. This is usually easier said than done, I know this, but that is why I say it… So that each person out there has the potential to discover their value, and so that they may see a glimmer of how to find it.
We are ALL Valuable, find and cherish those that know your worth!

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