Martin Luther King Jr. Tribute

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“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.”

In honor of his birthday January 15th 1929

The Autobiography of Martin Luther King, Jr.
Via Goodreads: King scholar Clayborne Carson has constructed a remarkable first-person account of Dr. King’s extraordinary life. Beginning with his boyhood, the book portrays King’s education as a minister, his ascendancy as a leader of the Montgomery bus boycott, his pivotal role in the civil rights demonstrations in Washington, D.C.
Rated: 4.6 on amazon.com

This is a great book if you want a deeper level of understanding of Dr. King’s spirit, and his intentions in the Civil Rights Movement.

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5 Simple Ways to Be Happy

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Create a Healthy Environment:
imagesSurround yourself with people who are positive and/or who love and care for you.

Rid your life of toxic people; people who make you feel bad about yourself, or who make you feel sad often, people who stress you out, people who take but do not give back, etc.

Do what you Love:
,j.jpgFind one thing (at least) that you love doing and are passionate about, and start doing it again regularly; baking, reading, a sport, fishing, playing cards, journaling, dancing, etc.

You don’t have to be good at it, just love doing it and do it often.

 

Try to find the Humor in things:
977660_10151562647694504_679891605_oLaugh at your mistakes, be silly, watch good old fashioned comedy (try watching I Love Lucy,) and don’t take yourself too seriously.

Do  whatever you can to get yourself to smile and hopefully even laugh now and then, so you don’t forget what it feels like.

 

Talk it Out:
Kakao_Talk_Cafe_002Find someone you can talk to, who is a good listener; a Therapist, a Mentor, a trusted love one, etc.

Meet with them regularly to talk, whether it is professionally or a weekly coffee date.

 


Impact Someone else’s Life for the Better:

Pay-It-Forward-NewVolunteer at a shelter, teach Sunday school, become a big brother/sister (or something similar, e.g. fostering) to a child or a mentor (officially or unofficially,) rescue an animal, pay it forward, etc.

You’ll be surprised at how much it impacts and helps you as well.

It doesn’t have to be huge, just find something you can do to make a difference.

Hopefully these things will momentarily make you happier,
and over time help you to become a more joy-filled person.

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What are some tips and tricks you use to stay positive and joy filled?

The Nightingale Gift

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It has just arrived:

The Nightingale by Kristin Hannah
A historical novel set during WWII. This story is about
the survival, love, and freedom of two sisters in German-occupied,
war-torn France.

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Somehow I got off the naughty list long enough to be gifted the #1 book on my wishlist. I am bubbling with excitement to read this book! “The Nightingale” has gotten rave reviews, it takes place during WWII (you know I’m a sucker,)  and it is just so beautiful. I wasn’t anticipating reading this book after “Midnight in The Garden of Good and Evil,” but now that I have it in my grasp,  I’m not sure I can resist. I was supposed to be reading “Cinder” and “Outlander” next…
I really should make a concrete book schedule for myself, I’m terribly undisciplined.
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Assurance

goldstars31Assurance:
1.) Confidence or certainty in one’s own abilities

Why are we ashamed or nervous to feel (and especially express) esteem for something we have accomplished? Is it because we don’t support our peers enough these days? Why is it that it takes “courage” and/or “confidence” in order to say “hey. I’m doing this thing, it makes me happy, and you know what I’m kinda good at it too.” If we all did it, I think we would support each other more, because we wouldn’t feel like we were in competition with one another. I think as a community we need to let someone know that they are good at something, encourage them when they tell us about their accomplishments, and feel joy in the fruit of our own labor and talents! Appreciation of self and others is not automatically feeding pridefulness and/or arrogance. I’ll tell you what it going to fuel; productivity, self assurance, and more creativity.
I think we can all agree there is nothing wrong with those things!

~AbbieLu

Honoring Lucy M. Montgomery


ff65074565eae73a649d0aca70085b91I love Anne of Green Gables, the whole collection is a breath of fresh air. Today is the birthday of Lucy Maud Montgomery the creator of The lovely Anne Shirley. She became a published writer in 1897 and wrote over 100 stories by 1907.She began writing her famous Anne Shirley Novels in 1908.

 

Fun Fact: Megan Follows the actress who played Anne Shirley
in the T.V. adaptation, won 2 Gemini Award for Best Performance by a Lead Actress.

It’s Okay To Be Single..?

Sometimes a person just wants to be single. Why is that so odd?

Now, I realize that biologically we are wired for companionship (that is my belief anyway.) Why does this mean that it is unreasonable, unhealthy, or unbelievable that a person would choose to be single. There are other relationships that can be fulfilling for a quite some time. Also, just because we may be wired for it to eventually happen, does not mean we cannot choose something else.

Just to clarify, I am not referring to dating, seeking, and/or sleeping around without the intention of committing. I am referring to the choice to be without someone romantically, on purpose. Focusing on your own person, whether it be self-care, self-improvement, your education, career, and/or family, etc. Or maybe just maybe someone really just does not want or cannot handle the weight of being caught up in a romantic relationship.

Companionship is very hard, and anyone who says different is either lying or they don’t have a very happy partner. Don’t get me wrong a good companionship is worth all of the effort and time, most things worthwhile take significant work. However, if you are not ready for it and/or cannot handle that responsibility yet, the relationship will be troubled.

Some people are smart enough to know this, and want to take time for their own self growth. However, despite how sensible that seems I am constantly hearing smart, beautiful, funny, etc. women asked “you’re really  _________ so why are you single?”

Now it is not the question that perplexes me, it is the attitude behind the question, or rather the assumption. It is asked with an assuming attitude, that because they are smart, successful, and/or beautiful there must be something wrong. Either something about them is not appealing to others, or they are not making the right choices to land a partner. I don’t see men asked this question. Which does not necessarily mean it doesn’t happen, but it does mean that for no good reason, there is a stigma.

Usually for men the fact that they are single despite good circumstances or breeding does not surprise people. However, there are strong assumptions and stigmas that begin to arise as to his intention. If a man is single (passed a certain age especially,) they begin to earn an insignia (at least among whispers and gossip) that they are either a player and/or afraid of commitment.

Now that may or may not be true for them, but I for one think it is fair to give each man the benefit of the doubt. They may have very good and valid reasons for choosing to take a break from romantic relationships and it’s important to credit them that. Now I am not a man so I am writing this part purely based on observation and speculation. Maybe I am wrong and all single (by choice) men really are just players (but this I doubt.)

These assumptions and stigmas are also really degrading. Neither a woman nor a man should ever feel compelled to base their self worth on the influence of another person. Identity is also something that should be discovered within oneself.  Obviously when we are in relationship, those peoples perspectives, feelings, and actions/words etc. are going to have an effect on us, we are human after all. However, if you found worth and identity on your own to begin with, then they are minor ripples that can be calmed.

It’s important to know your own self worth so that you can protect and respect it. Likewise, finding your identity from within creates a sense of security and balance that make it possible to be at peace. So  do your soul a favor, and keep those waves of uncertainty that can shake you at bay.

So, if you know of someone who is single don’t jump to conclusions or doubt intentions. I don’t think it is necessarily wrong to question someone else about their life choices (when appropriate) but try to accept and commend them for their differences when you can. It is extra important to support someone who is choosing a lifestyle that is not the norm. This is especially important with singles, because they are probably in great need of camaraderie and friendship.

So to you singles who are making the conscientious choose to put off romance for a time, I commend you. Keep working on your life and take pride in who you are as an individual. The time you spend building yourself will be well worth it. When the timing is right for you to share yourself and time with another person you will be all the wiser and more balanced for it.

      ~AbbieLu

In the Meantime make time to relax and rejuvenate.

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My favorite way to enjoy
them is in a diffuser, it so
beautiful and calming.

I Read Because…

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I read to gain knowledge, to mentally observe more about the human condition, and to stretch and exercise my imagination. Reading is a way to experience that which is not within my reach. Reading is my escape, adventure, and peace.

Why do you read? Please share.

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